One Fish and the Sea Ocean

Finding gf

2009-11-08T10:29:00.002+08:00

Ok ok i know......

But seriously this year is never my target to get a girlfriend.

I am seriously focusing in my career development for this year.

But I will keep my options open as usual.

Will hope to find one next year.

My true love and I will treasure her.

My Sister's Keep

2009-10-31T08:00:00.002+08:00

I watched a very meaningful and touching movie. Yes I cried.

Normally when I watched korean drama or japanese drama, I cried but very seldom.

I think the touching point is how the story goes and how the message is sent across.

My Sister's Keep is a good movie as it penetrates into each of the family members' hearts that surrounds the heart of their heavily illed sister/daughter.

I shall not reveal much about the story. The pain and the biting point to make big decision for the heavily illed sister/daugher is very touching.

The father, the mother, the younger sister and the brother. Each of them are showing so much love and strength to each other, no matter how much the pain and suffering is.

But the most touching point lies on the heavily illed sister/daughter. She knows the pain her family has gone through for years. She loves her family so much that she wanted to relieve their pain.

The crossroad of pain and love is true in real life especially when illness struck in one of your family members.

The pain to see the patient in pain, the love that you want to do everything to help your loved one, the agony that one suffer when they have to make the right decision for the patient.

In the end, no one can defeat death. Death is painful but at the same time it is a relief.

It is how each of the family member look upon death.

Death is never scary and that is why one should always love each other, family and friends.

It is guilt that lies behind if one miss the chance of loving the other.

Do it while you have the time. When you miss it, it is pain and suffering.

Kindness

2009-10-18T09:05:00.002+08:00

I really believe, nowadays people lost the meaning of kindess.

Perhaps their true meaning of kindness is to be kinder to themselves, not to others.

Nonono, that shouldn't be the way. No matter what, one should be kinder to others in order to be kind to one self.

Whether to believe in karma or not, I think it is a good virtue to be kind.

Whether it pays good to be kind or not, I think it is a matter of self improvement.

It doesn't pay you to be a good person but when you become a good person, you will feel good and everything seems good to you.

Gosh, I hate when people take advantage of my kindess. This prompt me to remind myself to show the kindness to the right people and not to those who are garbage that is hurting our society virtues.

One Night in 爱琴海

2009-10-18T08:39:00.003+08:00

Atmosphere is still as good.

Some singers on the stage are still as good too.

I always like what I called "Soul Voice" when it comes to singing. One whose voice touches one's soul, not just the heart.

Yes I came across a new female singer last night and I am quite attracted by her Soul Voice. Though she is still lacking in terms of singing experience, I am confident she can be one of the shinning star there if she work hard for it.

Some old singers still got the Stage Feel but sometimes overdoing can be averse-resulted.
You know, acting cute too much can kill the Feel.

But nonetheless, it is still entertaining overall.

Those who know me, I love singing, no doubt.
And when I sing, I always emphasis the Feel. It doesn't mean you sing good, you got the Feel. It means that you sing to make others to Feel what you are singing.

For example, if you sing a happy song, others people don't feel it, you are just singing to yourself in the end. You don't have to sing well or sing with great voice to do it, you just got to have the Feel yourself when you sing.

How I wish I can come across a gal with Soul Voice that touches my heart. And of cos, I can sing to touches her heart too.

One who I can love and both of us share the love of singing and music.

Long time no see

2009-10-18T08:24:00.002+08:00

Yes, it's really long time I have not seen myself in my blog.

Yeah, been busy with work and trying to explore different lifestyle.

Ya, I am still myself. I am always in control and still always strong in mind.

I am back.

BUBU Friends

2009-09-21T20:07:00.001+08:00

Oh yes, I just formed a new friend group called the BUBU friends.

And trust me, this group of friends is not a positive one.

Be sure you don't fall into such category.

If not, you will lose me as a friend in no time.

Good luck.

Hunting for a water group love

2009-09-21T19:23:00.002+08:00

Yes, it is not a shy secret that I am looking for a water group lover.

Be it a pisces, cancerian or scorpio. I would like to try it out.

Don't be mistaken, it doesn't mean that once I know the water group gal, I sure take it.

This is not a market of love. Love must comes deep from the heart.

My love has to grow when I am with the water group gal.

But it seems tough as years go by. I do not have the luck at all.

Even there is, I miss the chance and have no fate with her.

Gosh, it's tough but I will continue to hunt for one when I still got the time factor.

Gift Of Love

2009-08-30T12:00:00.000+08:00

I always believe, in a relationship, there should be a gift that symbolise love.

I finally found my gift of love.

And I hope that my next love also can share my gift of love.

I have prepared it now and when I give it to that someone special, it means my love for the person is always there for her.

So what is your gift of love?

It's a Faith, it's a Belief

2009-08-24T08:27:00.003+08:00

Not to many surprises, my friends have been telling me that I am putting up high expectations for finding a girlfriend.

Yes, it is true and I have been also telling them that now I can still afford to expect a bit more.

After all, I used to set little or no expectations when I entered into a relationship and ended up with no fruits of love. How pathetic!

Now I set the criteria, something that fits into my faith and my belief because now I have certain faith and belief in the way my love can work.

Of course, no one can tell me that this is right or wrong and I am in no position to tell them that my faith and belief is always right for me.

These criteria form the formulae of love for me which I hope to achieve.

One of my pals asked me to simplify it as my criteria is quite tough to hit.

Hmmm, I did not feel so but since there is a request, I will simplify it down:

My criteria of finding a girlfriend are:

a) hopefully she can be a water sign group, i.e pisces, cancerian or scorpio
b) age, appearance and character that is acceptable by me
c) likes singing and a bit of sports or any other activities that we can do things together

Easy liao? I hope so bah.

Still the biggest problem is that I am lacking of options that can fit in the criteria.

Call it lack of luck or no fate? Maybe so, but I am not giving up the searching.

Oh yes, I am still making friend with Time and I hope Time can help me to find the right one this time. Once Time is up against me, my criteria will change ultimately as the faith and belief will change too.

For a loving couple - Jing Chuan and Cheryl - on this day 07.08.09

2009-08-08T09:01:00.001+08:00

Yesterday I attended my good pal's ROM.

In fact, both of them are my good pals.

I wish both of them forever blissful, loving and happiness.

Hence, I have created a love poem for both of them, using their names in each line:

良辰美景结姻缘
川流不息动真情
秀才美女喜相逢
欢结联礼共婵娟

Full Blessings to you guys!!!!!! Cheers!!!!

It's Not About Wanting to Get Into One But Rather Get the Right One

2009-08-02T16:39:00.000+08:00

Yes I believe that for relationships, it's not about wanting to get into one, but rather get the right one.

Of course, no one can be so sure that they choose the partner and that is the RIGHT one.

But if somehow if you don't feel that is the one in the early stage, why get into it first?

Faith and confidence in love is one who needs.

I have them, and I hope to find the right one soon.

Getting Attached

2009-07-24T16:30:00.001+08:00

Recently, I had a few friends who got attached and going into loveship.

I am happy for them and wish them all the best and hope they make it last.

Nowadays people in relationships are classified as Vulnerable People. Not because they are old or lowly educated, they are not able to be clear and work smartly with their partners.

Love, is never a easy thing and it requires efforts from both parties.

Faith, is the thing they both must have.

With the faith and love, I believe things will last eventually.

Good luck guys!!!

PS: Don worry, I will work hard to find my TRUE LOVE too!!! Not this year though.

Clever or Stupid

2009-07-15T08:31:00.004+08:00

"Why are you so stupid?"
"Have you ever seen such a stupid person?"
"It's so obvious. How can he be so stupid?"

Above are the common quotes from what we perceived to be "clever" people.

Now the question is, who are we to judge others when we are not saints and perfect?

In fact, I admit that I am also one of the guilty parties to commit the above sin. In the younger days, I always think that I am clever and deem others who did not do in my way are the "silly" people.

As years go by, I learn to appreciate people and understand that we all have differences. It is how we share the differences and reach a compromising point.

Slowly as I learn, I try my very best not to put too much of my own opinion on others. Of course, I would still tell out my opinion to them. Whether they concur or support my stand, it is their own choice.

Guilty as I am, I use it more humourously. But still, it is no good.

Look at ourselves, look at others, who are we to judge others when we are not that good?

I realise:
1) You judge others, and others judge you.
2) You may feel what they did is stupid, but they may also feel that you are stupid.
3) We have to accept that there are stupid people in the world, which include ourselves.
4) If I want to scold others people stupid, might as well say myself stupid. This will stop me from saying it to others.
5) Sometimes it is better not to tell out your opinions if it hurts the other party.

But still, I would tend to agree. One may frustrate it out by saying others stupid but do not keep hanging the issue non-stop. Apologise if you feel you have offended others.

No one is born smart. It could be that the person do not know how to handle the issue yet.
We are all learning.

Another way is, I use the laugh-it-off method to make the situation more pleasant. Sometimes it is cute to see how people behave in their silly manner.

I am silly too.

I Learnt

2009-07-09T21:59:00.002+08:00

I learnt to be a stronger fish, not letting my weaknesses to overrun me.

I learnt to be nicer and closer to people I am closed to.

I learnt to be more sensible guy than I used to be.

I learnt to be able to control my own life.

I learnt to be able to let go things that I worry and cannot let go.

I learnt to be better and better.

Am I going to stop? The answer is no. Learning is neverending process.

Am I going to continue? You bet, I assure you I can be a more better man.

Busy, sick, busy, sick

2009-07-06T08:34:00.002+08:00

Busy busy busy, like I tell most of my friends. Of course, I am busy with work

Sick sick sick, which I dislike most all the time. Now I am down with flu.

Somehow for me, if I do not have enough rest, I get sick easily nowadays.
Not like the old times where I still can be fit and healthy when I was so tied up with busy life.

Maybe age is catching up with me. Arrghhh, I hate to admit that.

Marriage

2009-06-23T22:41:00.003+08:00

First I am very happy cos recently I got a good buddy and his girlfriend whom is also my good friend are going to ROM soon.

Happy for them, I give them my warmest blessings. They are both good people tying the knot. Swee swee.

To me, marriage is a lifetime love and commitment. That is what I feel it should be. You love the person and you should be fully committed. And once your status is changed, there should be fit and proper in terms of behavior and action.

Sidetrack a bit, I recently heard a lot of singapore fools' stories. Why are they called the singapore fools?

Cos' they are married and loves to fool around. These people simply do not know how to behave like married persons.

Married as they are, they can still forget and act as if they are still single and available.

For example, they can go clubbing and go around hugging and kissing other guys. Or some people go tour with their friends and share rooms with single guy whom they do not know the person very well.

I mean, how would the husband feel about that? If they switch roles, if the husband goes around and fool with other gals, how would you as a wife feel towards that?

Marriage is love and commitment. They can claimed that they love their husband but they are not committed to be a wife for their husband. That is why they can go around playing for fun.

Don't forget, once you engage too much fun, you may get addicted. Worse still, accidents do happen.

Be fit and proper if you are married.

Sing it Right

2009-06-21T20:45:00.003+08:00

I used to be a music person, writing a song based on my emotions and express my true feelings in the song.

That is why I always respect music people.

They create their songs and it is important for singers to sing it right.

Of course, we all hear so many singers and we know who sing it right and who does not.

And I believe, one who sing the song that touches your heart. Yes, that is what I called "sing it right".

That applies to me now in singing. Even though I am not the appointed singer whom they want, I want to make sure I sing it right too.

I want to sing the song that touches your heart.

Good Nature

2009-06-17T19:51:00.002+08:00

I believe in becoming good.

Being a good nature, differences can be resolved. Problems can be minimised.

As long you don't hurt people, the outcome is still good.

If you indirectly hurt people because of your own greed or own gains, the outcome may not be what you expected sometimes.

So do good now.

The evil cannot win good if you choose to be good.

IPODeeeee

2009-06-17T19:46:00.001+08:00

Yes, I have a new gf!!!!

Yes, I have a new gf which is IPODeeeeeeee!!!!

I name her Ipod_YY

Proud to have her as my gf!!!!!!!!!!

Muack!!!!!

Men's Talk 1

2009-06-09T06:18:00.002+08:00

Man A: How do gals define "caring" men?

Man B: Simple..... a lot of gals in Singapore define caring men as men with CARs that can brING them around.

Agree?

Treasure

2009-06-03T08:45:00.005+08:00

What is a real treasure?

Not that when you found diamonds, gold or even strike a lottery.

Real treasure to me is building good relationships.

Be it that we build with friends, family, neighbours and even colleagues. We should always treasure them at good times.

You see, it is the perception problems that we are looking at now. Most of us complain about bad times but how bad is really bad for us?

So when it comes to relationships, what is good and bad really depends on ourselves.

I realised that our Singapore society is lacking of good relationships. It seems that everyone is nasty to each other or everyone is not showing any concerns for each other.

We are all out to go for our own desires and needs. Quite often we neglect the needs of containing the presence of other people.

Question yourself, when is the last time you went out with your family? When is the last time you ring a friend and ask how is the person? When is the last time you tell your girlfriend that she always look pretty in your eyes? When is the last time you ever praise a person?

Because of the intense world we are living in, we are all blinded by guilt of money and status. Spending all the time at work to earn for a better living and mastering the skills of office politics to obtain higher position. At the end of the road, what have you benefited in terms of self?

To make things worse, when there is time to rest, we only think for ourselves and seldom we have rooms for others. Maybe the most is just to include your loved partner. Your family and friends is out of the circle.

Seriously, I find it nothing wrong to do things to make yourself happy. But when you does that to only yourself all the time, then something is very wrong.

I always believe, happiness is to share with others. Of course, I am still human being, I cannot share my happiness at all times with others.

Frankly I am guilty too. I have missed the good times with my good buddies in the past companies and I miss the fun with my own friends. Most of the times I am building precious time with my family now.

But rest assured I am making efforts and time out for them one by one. It is how one manage their time and perform it out.

At the end of the day, I want to ask myself, have I do my part and carry out my role well? At least I want to sleep sound and face the morning with a big smile everyday.

If you hasn't done so to treasure your relationships, please do it now while you still can.

June Report Card

2009-06-03T08:42:00.002+08:00

I have been monitoring my own report card for the year.

Half of the year has gone and so far I have done little for my achievements.

Nonetheless, I have lowered my expectations for achievements this year as I know that this is a tough year for me.

6 more months to go, I hope everything is smooth and steady going.

Gambatte!

A moment of silence, A pain of loss

2009-05-27T09:40:00.002+08:00

Today is one year which my mum has left us.

It's never easy for me and my family and it is extremely painful to lose her in such a short time.

I still cannot forget that moment when we rushed to the hospital, that moment when I touched her cold body and that moment of truth that she left us.

Up till now, I still have a lot to say to my mum and how much sorry I am to her that I did not do enough for her when I got the chance. I really miss her.

I pray hard to wish her always happy, peaceful and joyful no matter where she is.

Her spirits of love and gratitude always craved in my heart. Her kindness and helpfulness shall live in my characters.

I promise I will do my best to accomplish her unrealised wishes and I promise to take care of my whole family as long as I can.

Now I can only treasure her in my heart and soul.

A moment of silence, a pain of loss.

Treasure family love while one can.

Working with Time

2009-05-23T10:57:00.001+08:00

Time is always the element we lose to with regards to everything.

I am always learning how to work with time to produce the results I hope to achieve.

Time is the key to failure and success.

I am working with time.

Tough.

Horoscope Matching

2009-05-21T09:44:00.003+08:00

Most of you would have known, I have been in the research of horoscope characters for quite some time.

Somehow I begin to feel a lot of people are having the misconceptions of the horoscope matching.

No doubt, most books and myself would agree to the following statement:

"The most compatible horoscope is found in your same group of horoscope, be it you belongs to Fire, Air, Water or Earth"

Simply to put, if you are an aries, usually the better matching are in your Fire Group such as leo and saggi. Or you could be a Air Group like libra, the ones you could work it out well are gemini and aquarius.

However, does it mean if I find the most compatible horoscope, I will not have any problems and be fully blessed?

The answer is totally no way. Where and when on earth can we find perfect outcome?

But on the communication level for compatible horoscope, the answer is usually more yes.

Why no? Cos' there are the practical factors existed. If a couple who are compatibly matched, bound to have daily issues that affect their daily lives. Most of us are bound by the monetary issues and expectations. Or even external influence that may affect the choices the couple make. It is thus important to see how both can work towards the same direction.

Why yes? Cos' when one is having problems in life, the compatible horoscope will usually be able to give you the right spirtual and soul support.

But there are also exception cases where the result is extreme where things get more worse. One FIRE couple get too heated up during talking or another WATER couple get too emotional when one is too upset.

And I believe, if you have found the compatible horoscope partner, the formula to success is:

Fire Group - Strong Fire with Less Strong Fire
Air Group - Strong Air with Less Strong Air
Water Group - Strong Water with Less Strong Water
Earth Group - Strong Earth with Less Strong Earth

Like I say, whether can find compatible one is depends on your fate and largely depends on Feelings.

I always believe, we all have feelings and that's how we can get close to each other and get things done at times. No matter how compatible you can be with that person, no feelings is really of no use in the end.

Statistically speaking, the compatible horoscope success rate so far is about 80%.

Come on, does it mean that people who are having not so compatible or not compatible horoscope should start to worry or change mind? No, you should not if you are happy in your relationship. Treasure your loved ones.

Like I agree, Communications and Compromising are still the important tools to success. When you make the choice, you want to make it work out well. Patience and Love are the tools to last.

I wishes all couples out there, no matter your partner is compatible or not, please work things out together. Use the above tools to grow your feelings day by day.
You love the person, you choose the person and you love and take care of the person.

So ultimately, it is Love that holds two persons strongly together.

Yes I am still single, I do not restrict myself must find the compatible horoscope.

Cos' I want to find Love.

Fair/Unfair? Perfect/Imperfect?

2009-05-17T09:00:00.003+08:00

In this world, I believe in fairness. And everything is fair, it is just our perspective to view it differently.

But I believe nothing is perfect. It is the imperfection that leads us to improvement and a better one self.

Chim? Think it again. If you lost a dollar today, you can blame the world down to your toes, thinking it is unfair as this bad incident only happens on you. So what about those times you found a dollar on the street? Gains and Losses?

Improvements always come from imperfection. There is never a perfect man in this matter, let alone a perfect matter. You see, humans create matters and thus imperfect humans create imperfect matters.

So no point sometimes for us to hover over certain issues. Let nature goes by its own.

You just got to balance and manage your own expectations.

If you think you have done your best, there is nothing that can stop you or fear you.

If you think you got to put in more effort, just do it.

If you think what you have done did not make you feel bad or make others feel bad, are you happy?

In this world, it is all about balancing.

I am learning to balance myself. Not easy and it is not tough at all.

Just do it.

Happy Mother's Day

2009-05-10T17:49:00.002+08:00

To my mum if you can hear me saying this:

Happy Mother's Day!!!! Thank you for giving me the best and always be there for me !!!!

I can't help to feel that I did not do enough to make you happy and enjoy to the fullest......

You're the best and I promise I will take care of our family always.

Lacking

2009-05-10T09:40:00.002+08:00

Oh boy, I have been lacking in a lot of areas recently.

Still, I have to give excuses for myself. Haha human nature la....

Stress can make one really lacking in their own areas.

Talk about self-improvements? I suddenly lost direction in it.

Nonono.... must get back on track.

I look at myself in the mirror. I have looked more weary and haggard.

Got to sleep more. Got to slim down further. Got to be happier.

Jia you!!!

Happy Vesak Days

2009-05-09T06:53:00.003+08:00

Happy Vesak Day to all Buddhists!!!!

Kindness makes a better world.

We are not saints but we can still do kindness.

That is do things that would not hurt other people; Do things that make yourself and other people happy; Do things that you are fair and just.

Promotes simple living.

Our world is dying.... please show your kindness.

Thank you.

Love Faith and Trust

2009-05-03T10:39:00.004+08:00

Love, I asked. What is love nowadays?

Is it a game of trust and faith? Or it is a belief of trust and faith?

Traditionally, we can see the sweetener for love is filled with patience, accomodating, commitment and trusting.

Nowadays, we have somehow misused the power of love.

Love seems to be a transaction.

There seems to have a trade-off in relationship nowadays. The element of physical fun seems to suggest a lot of things in relationship.

They do not just engage in such fun together themselves.

They extend their "invitation" to other people as well.

Outrageous? Yes, it might sound so. But it seems to be a trend many people who are attached are finding physical fun in other people as well.

Faint. For me, if you are single and available, you can have all the fun you want as long as it does not hurt anyone in the process.

But since you are attached, why would you go out have fun with others, other than your partner?

Many guys, unfortunately, seeks the fun secretly without letting their girlfriend to know about it. Or it could also be that both the guy and the gal seek their own individual fun with other people but at the end of the day, they still come back together.

Strangely, guys who have fun outside restrict their girlfriend to do the same. Unfair right? Why can't their girlfriend have fun while they can do it openly?

Shake head. Like I say, when two persons are in love, the focus should be to each other. There are so many things that can be fun for two people only. It really depends how you can create the fun with each other.

Why create trouble and problems for yourself and your partner?

Cos having fun with others makes you feel good? Or it makes you treasure your loved one?

Rubbish!! Lame excuses !!!

A guy should be more caring and do it more for the girlfriend.

The gal should be more accomodating and not grouchy towards the boyfriend.

Must learn to be harmony and create sweetness in relationship that can last.

Love should not be misused.

Love should be all about faith and trust.

Sensitivity

2009-04-29T22:02:00.003+08:00

You see, in life, we are sensitive people.

There are good and bad in sensitivity of people.

I always believe, everything sure got good and bad.

You got to know how to deal carefully with the bad ones, if not, it will turn more adverse than you would have imagined.

Think of this, if you are sensitive and you thought other people is dealing with you. The real situation is not what you have imagined it to be. The biggest problem come when you are over sensitive and you start to find reasons/excuses to start to deal with other people, creating havoc in yourself.

Why do that? Why create trouble for yourself?

A wise man say this, "When there is no concrete evidence, you just have to take it by the surface. Make the move when it is necessary. And make sure it is the right move"

Now who is the wise man?

Ahhem.....

Feelings

2009-04-26T09:49:00.002+08:00

I am a very feelings based person.

Blame it on myself, yes, I am a pisces.

Frankly, I do not find myself to be very pisces for almost 5 years. Now I am more towards 20% pisces.

This 20% pisces makes me a true believer in love. That means that when it comes to relationships, I must make sure my feelings towards the person is real and correct.

I have good feelings to a gal before but that was in the past already. She has a boyfriend now and I wish her all the best to her new relationship.

For me, it is career and self improvement at the age of 30. I must work hard towards my goals and changes.

At the same time, I will open up my social circle to know more gals.

I am never rushing into relationship and I trust my feelings.

One more thing, I want to make sure the gal likes me then I start to show my feelings. It is quite tiring to be one-sided.

Really tiring.

I want to become 型男

2009-04-26T07:33:00.004+08:00

It's been a long time I update my blog.....

It's because I had just gone in a bad patch in life, I am so busy at work afte my overseas trip and I am trying to slowly changed my image for this year.

I have told you guys, at the age of 30, I want a change in myself.

And I am slowly doing it. And I want to be a real 型男!

So far, I have:
1) changed my hairstyle
2) changed my wardrobe
3) bought a nice pair of working shoes
4) bought myself a nice Braun Buffel wallet
5) and most recently I just got myself a beautiful Seiko watch.

As people says, 人靠衣装，佛靠金装。This I totally agree.

For me to have a status change, it all starts from the appearnce first.

It is very important to give people a nice and good first impression.

Character wise, I am always the same. I don't like to show people the pretentious side. I will try to be as trueful as I am towards my friends. I will try to be as helpful as I can towards my friends.

Next to really learn is to help those friends who is really in need of help. Not just helping them blindly.

I feel that I am sometimes too kind to be taken for granted. Am I?

The Millionaire Ah Heng Story (Part 2)

2009-04-25T21:04:00.004+08:00

The guests who arrive first is ... Mr Capricorn. Famous for being a well-organised man he is, Ah Heng is always impressed with this friend.

Soon, the rest of the guests slowly settle in. However, Ah Heng told the housekeeper to separate the guys and the ladies in different ballrooms first. And the housekeeper will start observing the ballroom that is filled with the guys.

Mr Leo start to take the initial and go around shaking hands introducing himself. He shake hands with Mr Libra, Mr Gemini, Mr Taurus, Mr Virgo, Mr Pisces, Mr Cancerian, Mr Aries and Mr Saggi. But very soon, he start to engage chats easily with Mr Aries and Mr Saggi when he noticed the branded watch that Mr Aries wore and the branded suit that Mr Saggi wore.

As a result, Mr Leo, Mr Aries and Mr Saggi begin to talk among themselves about fashion, entertainment and work. The housekeeper labelled them as fun and activists groups.

Next is Mr Libra who walks around taking a wine glass and start to find Mr Aquarius and Mr Gemini who seems to enjoy the wine as well. Mr Libra display great charisma by offering a toasting gesture to Mr Aquarius and Mr Gemini. Hence, the three men start to form a group who shared each of their own lifestyle. Mr Libra, already an outspoken person, found that Mr Gemini who is cold at the appearance, is actually an outspoken person as well. Mr Aquarius, on the other hand, is more quiet but once he gets into the topic he wanted, he show so much passion and enthusiam in it.

The housekeeper labelled them as the passionate lifestylists.

Soon Mr Pisces start to make a move. He seems to observe the eyes of the guests. Slowly, he found and start to crack a conversation with Mr Virgo and Mr Cancerian. Mr Pisces always smiled a lot which gives people a warm and nice feeling. The way he talked to people is so much of a relaxing and easy going manner. "I know Ah Heng quite long liao. He is a nice man and helps a lot of people. And not many people is like him. One who I really respect a lot...." Mr Virgo smiled back politely and walked towards the food feast table which interests him most. But Mr Cancerian stayed and start chatting with Mr Pisces, sharing with him how he know Ah Heng as well. And one can hear their laughter as both of them joked in their chat.

At the food feast table, Mr Virgo is enjoying the food. As Mr Capricorn approaches Mr Virgo at the food feast table, he says, "You got good taste. You have selected one of the finest cheese cake in the world. It is baked by one of the world best chef called Mr Caketalk." Mr Taurus, soon came over, "I have screened through the food table and the best food is the seafood. You all should try them all." And you can see three of them combed through the table thoroughly and selected the best out of it. Then they sit down together at a table and eats quietly with a good table manners. Soon the housekeeper labelled them to be the practical and comparative people.

The housekeeper now turned to observe Mr Scorpio as he is so quiet walking around. He smiled to every guests, eat and drink randomly at the table but seems unable to find his click group.

He talked a bit of his lifestyle with Mr Libra, Mr Aquarius and Mr Gemini.

He shared a bit of fun and person activites with Mr Leo, Mr Aries and Mr Saggi.

He shared a bit of knowledge about food and wine with Mr Virgo, Mr Capricorn and Mr Taurus.

But he couldn't settle into one of these group of people.

Soon, he hear more laughters from Mr Pisces and Mr Cancerians. He start to feel the easy atmosphere both guys have created. Slowly, he walked towards them and see if he could mix with them. When Mr Pisces and Mr Cancerian say him coming, both of them welcomed Mr Scorpio with a big, friendly smile. Mr Pisces open the conservation with Mr Scorpio by sounding as if he knows him for quite some time. Very soon, they seems to talk anything under the sun.

The housekeeper smiled, labelling these three guys as the body language people. He can hear the loudest laughter and see a lot of expressions from them.

One hour later.....

Ah Heng came over to the housekeeper and the housekeeper submitted his first analysis report to him. Ah Heng smiled and praised the housekeeper for the good work he put in.

"Let the fun begins, bring in the ladies!!!"

(To be continued....)

Tolerance

2009-04-04T06:42:00.002+08:00

In life, we have tolerate a lot of things.

To put it plainly, it is just the perspectives we have are different.

To put it bluntly, you just cannot stand the other person's bullshit.

Shake head strongly.

The Millionaire Ah Heng Story (Part 1)

2009-04-01T20:57:00.002+08:00

Let me tell you a story.

Every year on the twenty-second of the second month of the year, there is a millionaire in Singapore whom everyone loves to call him Ah Heng, and Ah Heng loves to hold a birthday party at his big mansion and invite many people to his birthday party.

So this year 2009, Ah Heng decides to invite all his 24 good friends to his mansion, namely:

1) Mr Capricorn
2) Mr Aquarius
3) Mr Pisces
4) Mr Aries
5) Mr Taurus
6) Mr Gemini
7) Mr Cancer
8) Mr Leo
9) Mr Virgo
10) Mr Libra
11) Mr Scorpio
12) Mr Saggi
13) Ms Capricorn
14) Ms Aquarius
15) Ms Pisces
16) Ms Aries
17) Ms Taurus
18) Ms Gemini
19) Ms Cancer
20) Ms Leo
21) Ms Virgo
22) Ms Libra
23) Ms Scorpio
24) Ms Saggi

All his 24 friends do not know each other. That is why Ah Heng is so excited about it.

He told his housekeeper to observe each of his 24 friends."You must observe each of them how they get to know each other and how they become friends. Report to me every details at every hour..."

So the housekeeper has no choice but to use the latest technology and latest equipment to track each of the 24 guests in the birthday party.

Every action or movement shall be tracked and recorded.

The big night arrives. Every guest came alone with the invitation card. Guess who is the first to arrive??

(To be continued....)

Coming Soon!!!!

2009-03-22T10:58:00.003+08:00

Coming Soon!!!! Yes it's coming soon!!!!

1 April 2009 will be my new blog playground.

It's the same place but with different playground and more juicy entries i promise!

Come back to this site again on 1 April 2009 !!!!

I'm soooooooooooooo excited!!!!

100th Post

2009-03-15T22:07:00.003+08:00

This is my 100th post in this blog.

Actually I got a lot to say. But I am just lazy to type it all out.

100th post is reflection.

What I have gained and lost for the past months.

I lost my dearest mum, it gives me the biggest lesson learnt in my life. That is to love someone when you still got the chance. Regrets is what I am having as I did not do much as a son to express my love to her. She has been a great mum to take care of my well-being although I did not realise much till when I am older. Too late, our greatest human sin of all is to see the other person's bad points. When you sit down and think it back, what they did is all for you. It is just that you did not see their point at that moment of time. Yes, I learnt that painful lesson and I am starting to love my family more. Treasure them when we are given the time. Don't wait until you find it too late and you will start to have regrets in your mind. No one is perfect, we just need to communicate it out.

I gained friendship, it is valuable and add colors to my life. I got quite a few good buddies, they have been there for me and show me support. I also got quite a few good sisters. Some of them taught me how a girl could think and behave and gives me good coaching lessons. No matter how long our friendship, appreciation is the best word I can describe my feelings for them. I learnt to treat my friends well and I believe if happiness is shared with them, it is more meaningful.

Yes, it seems to be many phrases I have gone through in my life. Wild, decent, stupid and smart I can be, I begin to learn what is it for me at each time.

And another thing I learnt it too. You like someone and it is to make the other person happy. Of course, you must stick to your logics when you like someone. But somehow, I am still what I am no matter before or after. I detest those who can be so different when they enter into different phrases of loveship.

Love is always the toughest word in my life. I am still learning it.

Stay on track

2009-03-14T22:51:00.000+08:00

I am reaching my 100 entries soon.

As you all know, I change blog once I reach 100 entries.

I will stay for this time.

Guess I din manage to make it exciting for this blog.

Thats why I shall continue.....

To crap of course.

Mega Mall Jurong Point

2009-03-14T15:44:00.002+08:00

I just came back from the mega mall Jurong Point!!!

It seems like 8-10 years ago that I visited them. But look at what it has changed now!

It is super huge and of course a lot of shops and a lot of people!!!!

It is really big that you can find 3 foodcourts, 2 NTUC and one super big POPULAR bookstore!!!

Yes, the shopping experience is great !!! I can spend half a day there to shop around!!!

Yes I begin to envy my friends who live in the west.

Yes, I will like to go back there again although it is an hour journey.

Come to think of it, what do we have around my area? Junction 8, Northpoint and AMK Hub?

Nah, I can easily settle each of them in less than an hour.

Go Jurong Point if you have not done so!!!

Focus

2009-03-05T20:44:00.003+08:00

I am more focusing on myself this year.

I have not been focusing on myself for quite a long time.

Always thinking for others is a very tiring process.

Time to be selfish.

Love Cheats

2009-03-05T16:31:00.003+08:00

I realise that a lot of men cheats.

Ok, maybe I see more men cheats nowadays.

I am a man of true love believer. One of the factor I believe in true love is loyalty.

Once you are prepared to love the person, you should give up more than before and not doing something that is against the true love.

Somehow, men cheats. Even you are with your girlfriend, you cheats.

Why? Cos' they wanna try out different flavours? Or because they feel by doing the evil deeds, he can treasure his girlfriend more than ever?

Excuses! Why not say that they let their lower body do the thinking more than using heart and mind.

Now then I realise that quite a number of guys use lower body to think more than their vital mind and heart.

Shit, I have been using too much heart and mind liao, although I use the latter more often.

If you are attached, please do not do something that may hurt your partner.

I believe in karma.

Do more good deeds bah.

The world is in the mess, don't make things worse ok.

To love or be loved

2009-03-02T22:30:00.003+08:00

To love someone sometimes it can be very tiring and efforts putting.
Especially to someone who do not love you.

To be loved sometimes it can be very frustrating and unenjoyable.
Especially from someone whom you do not love.

How to find that balancing point? Does your partner love you the way you love him/her?

I guess it is quite true that nowadys there are so many imperfect love.

I do not mean 100% perfect love that will exists. I think nowadays only 20 to 30% of love that people is experiencing.

Love is just like report card. How would you rate your love?

Singing Deficiency

2009-02-22T09:53:00.003+08:00

I realise something about myself in singing.

My throat gets dry very easily. No wonder I cannot last in my singing.

Any solution?

Thank You All!!

2009-02-21T10:23:00.005+08:00

A Big Thank You for all my friends who have celebrated and make my coming birthday a wonderful one.

A very big thank you to my good sis Jenny, my good big bro CM, my best singing kaki Selina, my "always kena suaned by me" bunny sis Dap, my buddy Irene, my loving couple pals E and K, my another loving couple C and J, my big sis LB, my ex-boss AC, my AIA buddies Edy, Sai Kit, Kai Ee and Sharol, my GE colleagues Ann Jee, Pin Pin, Hui Xin and Eric, my best bros Kaylor, boy and pig.

Thank you for all your wishes and gifts. And thank you all who celebrated with me yesterday.

Ok I know that some of my friends still waiting to celebrate with me but I am quite busy lately. Don't worry, I will thank you in separate post again.

Fine, fine, I am reaching 30 and I believe it is the start of my prime in my life. If I look back each of the 10 years I have gone thru, I believe I have changed to be better.

Thank you once again and I also wish all of you good health, good fortune and good luck.

Personal Report Card - 2008

2009-02-15T10:45:00.002+08:00

I realise I failed miserably in my personal report card 2008.

Most of my subjects did not pass and I guess I need to put in a lot more efforts to pass them.

I need a change.

To make myself be better and ever.

I have a wish

2009-02-15T00:25:00.001+08:00

Funny right, my birthday is not here but i have a wish.

Yes, I just want to have a wish.

This wish I hope to come true.

So cannot tell you.

The Ultimate Goal of Getting Older

2009-02-08T09:05:00.002+08:00

I begin to see a trend, and it is getting common nowadays.

Men and women are all pushing for their ultimate goal when their age alarm starts to go off.

As Men starts to get older, usually is after 30, they tend to go for status fulfilment. This means that if you are a man and when your time starts to tick off from age 30, you must achieve certain status requirements to make yourself a better man. For eg, a guy at the age of 35, has a car, a good heap of savings and a good job career, is always deemed better when compared to another guy having the same age but only have savings.

Normally for guys when their age is between 20 to 30, it is called the growing stage. If a guy who is from 3o to 40 and majority of the time is still growing, it is not going to be looked good on him at all.

Men and status, cannot be hidden away.

As Women starts to get older, usually is after 28, they tend to go for appearance fulfilment. This means that if you are a woman and your time starts to tick off from age 28, you must start to maintain and always look good. If possible, you want your looks to stop at 28 or earlier. That is why when women reaches 28, most of them start to panic and a lot of women are willing to dump a big heap of savings to facial and surgery. If they don't look good, they are not getting the right attention from men.

Women and looks, cannot be avoided.

My age is up to 30 soon. Guess I must start to plan on the status. I think the savings portion is more important. Yes I am building on my career too. As for car, I don't really need it at all. Maybe in farther future.

Everything you do, it is the memory that counts

2009-02-01T22:57:00.003+08:00

I always tell myself, no matter what I do, enjoy the process as it will become a memory back in your mind.

No matter it is a success or failure, the efforts you put in during the process is valuable.

Of course, there will be good and bad memories in our entire life.

Good memories, are when you think it back, you should feel happy and treasure those moments.

Bad memories, are when you think it back, you should be serious and learn from those moments.

It is never good to lose these memories.

Starting Refresh

2009-01-27T17:35:00.003+08:00

Call this a hardworking ox year.

I am starting refresh to welcome the challenges facing soon.

No matter what, I am taking the ride strongly, positively and determinedly.

Hope to execute my plans well this year.

Let's welcome a good ox year!!!

2009-01-25T23:08:00.001+08:00

Join me, to welcome the good ox year!!!

Hope it will be peaceful year for everybody!!!!

Huat Ar!!!!

I'm Sorry I Love You

2009-01-24T14:09:00.004+08:00

Most of my friends know me, I am seldom a korean drama fan. And I seldom like watch drama shows.

Of course, I do like a couple of Korean shows such as The Summer Scent etc. It is only drama shows that REALLY touches my heart.

Frankly I seldom cry when I watch drama shows but this time round, I was beaten for the 2nd time.

This Korean drama "I'm Sorry I Love You" really touches my heart. I cried quite a few times.

You bet, it is a tragic love story. I really feel the pain in love.

Got chance, you may like to watch it.

Sheesh, I go grab my tissue now.

Common Interests

2009-01-21T17:32:00.002+08:00

It is quite difficult to find common interest friends.

If not, sometimes it is hard to get someone with the common interests at the right time.

I believe that a couple should be having some common interests to do it together.

Those couples out there, do you have a common interest then?

To love or be loved

2009-01-20T16:34:00.004+08:00

I am not sure of this theory:

"Guys are relativelly easier to love someone as compared to a gal".

What it means is that it is easy for a guy to love someone as gals tend to think a lot before accepting a love and guys realtively don't.

There is this topic that gals always talk among each other, whether to love or be loved is true happiness to a gal. Well, every one has their own view points of course. Most gals feel that being loved is true happiness.

To me, true happinesss is to love and be loved. If not, it is hard for the relationship to last.

In the older generations, couples get together due to commitment or submissive fate. Nowadays, love is freedom as most people have choices.

Some pple have more than 1 choice and this make their decision more difficult.

Indeed, it is hardest to find one you love and you are loved by the person. Does such thing exists?

How do you know if you like the girl?

2009-01-20T15:36:00.003+08:00

A guy pal just asked me, how do I know if I like the girl? Like as in wanting the girl to be your girlfriend.

I told him simply, "You will miss her, dream of her, think of her, remember her words and will associate a lot of things with her. You feel like doing a lot of things for her".

I think it's kinda true. Sometimes when I walked alone shopping, I tend to buy something out of sudden for the girl I like.

He got the answer and start to think again.

In the end, he realised he din like her as much. It's just a crush.

CNY coming

2009-01-19T13:58:00.003+08:00

Yes, time flies.

CNY is coming very soon.

As you all know, I am not celebrating it this year. In fact, CNY to me is just a CNY. In the past, I seldom enjoy CNY very much except the gambling joy we have.

This CNY coming what am I going to do?

Stay home to recover my pox marks?

Go sing ktv after so long out of action?

I seriously dunno. Maybe this year stay low.

Very low.

Big Plans

2009-01-19T11:23:00.002+08:00

These days I have done a lot of thinking for myself.

I guess I should look back the almost 30 years of what I have become or achieved so far.

Come to think of it, although I have recovered my losses in a short time and most of my plans are in place, I still feel that I am not strong in my career development.

I think it's time I put some of my career plans in place. I am creating more drive in my career hopefully to achieve them sooner if possible.

Luck plays a role in helping me to achieve them. I need them. Look at the start of 2009, I have yet to react or start my engine and I have been chicken poxed that cause me to stay out of action for almost 2 weeks.

This year I have to carry out some of my plans. I hope to do it well so that the start of my 30s will be a forward moving train.

Time to carry out my Plan A.

Did you change for the better?

2009-01-16T18:18:00.005+08:00

Today I msn with one of my old friend who is at work

But he is unhappy cos he felt that he cannot mingle with his colleagues around anymore. Somemore they have been colleagues for 4 years.

I asked him, "Are they like that when you first joined the company?" He replied no. He said that they were so close before and even go out often together. But only recently that he was promoted to supervisor and he felt that their relationship also starts to change. And he suspected that some of them might bad-mouth or jealous about his promotion.

I told him to set aside the negative feelings and stay objective. I asked him, "Did you change in your attitude or the way you handle them is not the same as before?" He took time to think and he replied, "Yes, I admit I am now more vocal and express more of my views than before. Of course I have to give views leh I am their supervisor!"

The conversation did not end cos he is too busy with his work. But come to think of it, in reality, relationship among one another do start when there is a change.

I guess the most distinguishable is status change. A person who become rich overnight start to comment that shark fins taste much better than the normal food. A person who is promoted start to teach people what is his achievement as compared to others.

People get envious eyes or get sensitive is normal. These could be the changes you felt about others. One thing we must always ask ourselves is that if to others, have I changed myself?

I remembered one golden teaching from a successful man: Your achievement is to be shared from other people and not from yourself. If you share your achievement, it is bragging. Also, when one obtain a higher status at work, it could be benefited from someone else or it could be your luck. Most important is you just need to do your part well and people will give you the deserved respect when you do the right thing.

When you are promoted, one should not think cos he is better than others. Rather, the mindset should be modest and thankful that you get the promotion and should continue do well to treasure your attainment. Get respect from others with regards to your promotion.

If you ever become a manager, you should not start to be big-headed to teach other people what is right and wrong to do until the person make mistakes. Ultimately, you want respect from the people because they really respect you as a manager and not respect your title in name.

In life, we need one other.

No matter what status you are, respect is the tool to communications.

Change for the better bah.

I MIss.....

2009-01-16T12:04:00.002+08:00

During the days of quarantine, I really missed out a lot of things.

I miss.....

Eating my favourite food.

Going out with my friends shopping and chatting.

Go shopping buy things I like.

Singing my favourite Ktv.

Watch movies with friends.

Going work.

Go out with someone.

Go out to find my song aspirations for a long time i wanted to do so.

many many more.......

Now you know it's torturous to get chicken pox when you are adult.

Shit man.

Memories

2009-01-14T22:47:00.001+08:00

At this period, I can still remember the incidents that happened around this time one year ago.

It was not a pleasant one.

Till now, the grief is still inside me.

Deep Frustration

2009-01-13T19:03:00.000+08:00

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Thank you

2009-01-13T16:49:00.003+08:00

Yes I like to thank all of my friends who have sent their greatest wishes and lovely concerns to me via sms, phone or msg. Really appreciate all.

Yes, you guys are great and I try to recover soon to ask you some of you guys out.

Thanks man!

Chicken Poxed!

2009-01-13T16:43:00.004+08:00

Yes, i'm sure most of you would have known that I am experiencing the worst moments just for the start of 2009: Chicken poxed! (At this age?)

Sometimes I feel so lucky, to go through what normal people did not go through. For example, chicken pox is more common to happen at young age but I have it first time now. Slip disc is a common problem in army guys during army days but I have it at older age.

Damn I am so lucky.

This time round the chicken pox is quite bad as it spread the most on my face!!!! Shit!!! Damnit!!! If I can step out in the street, i'm sure police cars are all behind after me.

How soon can I recover? I am not that optimistic really.

I want to get back to work!!! But I cant.

I feel being quarantined at home in a small room.

Gosh............... any remedy?

I just came back from Taipei

2009-01-05T21:47:00.009+08:00

Yes, I just came back from the wonderful Taipei.

The weather was cold but alright in Taipei and it was even colder in Alishan.

Overall, I enjoyed the trip very much. I should thank our camera woman Jenny for taking so many wonderful photos.

Here are some of my best pictures but in random cos there are too many pics to upload liao:

And the best pic goes to............

I took pic with my idol Valen Hsu!!!!!

The DF Graduation

2008-12-21T22:08:00.003+08:00

Last Friday, it was our Dragonfly (DF) Graduation Night, a big mark on my calendar 19 December 2008.

This event is planned to be the finale for our DF Club formed quite some time back. To me, it is the biggest event ever, just like those Star Awards Ceremony.

This round, we also welcome the non-DF members to share this joyous big event. In total, we had a big group of fun people for the event.

What makes the whole event more interesting is that there is singing contest organised for all the DF members who loves singing.

The DF Graduation theme is Black and Glamourous. For this event, I even go all the way to find a black suit. Since our main organiser Jenny has put in so much efforts trying to make this event a big hit, I must wear to the ocassion not to disappoint her.

All went fine for me except that I am suffering from bad back injury, I couldn't go for a good haircut before this event. Also, I am suffering from loss of sleep lately which make me looked tired. And worse worse after the worst, I had my company retreat from Friday till Sunday!!!! I have to rush down from Changi to Dragonfly in cab during peak hours!!! Super expensive but it is worth it.

Back to the event, I am happy to find a lovely female partner to go with me to this DF Graduation. She also spend quite some time to doll up herself for this event cos she knows I treat this event seriously. This I am truly grateful to her.

I arrived late, all thanks to the stupid traffic jam and I had to take a quick bite for dinner. It was quite a rush as we had to start singing our contest song quite instantly.

Lucky I did not disappoint my duet partner.

It was a good singing night for the contest and I voted Sai Kit, as he did sing very well with his great vocal.

In the end, Selina won the best female singer and I won the best male singer. But I still feel Sai Kit sing much better than I do.

Anyway, the main thing is to enjoy. After that, everyone start to roll into the party mood.

The whole DF Graduation ends with a success. My partner and myself enjoyed very much.

The only sad thing is I din sleep much after the event and head back to my company retreat to prepare myself for the Company Pulau Ubin trip!!!!

Will update soon.

情感

2008-12-14T09:34:00.002+08:00

我承认，在情感的道路上，我处理不当，拿捏不好。

也许就有如我几位好友所说的，我是一个不会油腔滑调，讨好人家，表露心事的男人。

我一直以来都以我一贯的作风，对于关心与爱护，我都是以基本的行动表现出来。有时，对方并完全没有察觉得到，对方也许不理解你想表达的讯息。

真的好灰心。

唉，到底我会找到真正我所爱，也爱我的人?

情感的路，总是如此坎坷。

Dirty Love Game

2008-12-12T22:17:00.003+08:00

To me, love is about putting your emotions and feelings into it.

But to some, love can be a dirty game.

Recently, I have been hearing quite a few people are having dirty love games.

What is dirty love games? It's all about just fun, no commitment and no true feelings and no real emotions attached.

Maybe I am a old man lover. Always one-to-one concept. If I ever like a gal, I would never look at other gals. Of cos, how I know I really like this gal, is when I am with other gals, she is still the one I will want.

There are so many poorer quality men than me but already attached and get wild with gals easily.

What have I done? Nothing.

Cos I know myself too well. Once I cross the line, I can be more wild than anyone.

Better don and not regret.

Be safe than sorry.

Dance is an art

2008-12-12T21:54:00.004+08:00

I went to watch one of my sisters Jenny performing her hip hop dance at Victoria Theatre.

The overall performance was a combination of different dances in the dance school and scripted to become fairy tale stories.

It started off with young little kids dancing on the stage, although there are hiccups in the process, the audience enjoyed so much by just looking at their innocent and pure cuteness faces. So funny.

As for the adult dancers, there are ballets and hip hop dance. Let me first talk about ballet. Gracefulness and flow is to describe how beautiful a ballet dance can be. Yeah I do enjoy the ballet dance so much that you will feel good after seeing them. I mean the dance, not the gals.

Next, hip hop dance to me is all about the punch and precise. The movements must be swift with punch and very precise. As I saw the group of young people including my sis performing the hip hop, I have to give them a lot of credits as they are just been trained for only a short period. Overall, it was good.

Not only the students performed credibly, the teachers of the ballet and hip hop performed to their high levels. I believe the teachers and the students enjoyed themselves too.

Good job everyone!

Life is so unpredictable

2008-12-03T23:32:00.003+08:00

This year seems to be a departure year.

One by one people around me seems to be leaving.

First is my mum, and now is her one and only sister my own aunt.

I wish them all the best in the other world and find true happiness and peace.

Life is so unpredictable.

Finding Your Partner (in Horoscopic View)

2008-12-03T08:19:00.004+08:00

This morning in the mrt I have a sudden inspiration to write something about finding your partner in my horoscopic views.

It may not be totally true throughout but if I can recapture the "needs" of my friends around based on their horoscopic characters, most of them told me the similar traits which I can classify them into the same group. Just read with an easy mind.

This post is to let all of us to know how each behaves and how we as partners can expect much from our own partners. Like I say, love is all about compromising, trust and commitment.

In life, we all want to find the best love to accompany us till old to the end of our route. But there is no perfect love.

FIRE GROUP (Aries, Leo and Saggi)

They usually look for playmates. Hey, it does not mean they are not settled people and go for wild people. Playmates to their definitions is that they are looking for someone who can largely share into their interests. If you would have noticed, most people in the fire group are largely into active and outdoor activities or certain cute interests such as comics, music or hello kitty etc.

So their partner should be able to dissolve themselves with them in such activities. If not, they should be prepared to be feel neglected. After all, fire group is the most independent and strong people that they can just in their own ways without involving others. So the best way for them is to find playmates whom they can enjoy the activities with and share the same interests.

EARTH GROUP (Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn)

They usually look for qualities mates. Oh, it does not mean they only go for best qualities people. Earthy group people usually set some standards which they can accept in finding their partners. They hope to find someone that is better than them in certain aspects. It could be the outlook images, certain characters traits or certain lifestyle that they can look upon and accept. But the funny thing is that they have the tendency to add on their qualities in their finding when they grow older and wiser. And it is until the time they are losing to, then they start to less off their qualities finding. So if you are interested in any of the earthy people, make sure you have certain qualities or attributes that they want and accept and very importantly, make sure you can maintain your qualities or not, improve them to make them even feel secured with you.

AIR GROUP (Libra, Aquarius and Gemini)

They usually look for lifestyle mates. They are a special group of people because they usually don't lack of companions. In their lifestyles, they grow passion and once they like it, they can do it almost everyday and without losing their flame. So when they are finally looking for partners, they want to see if the person can really fit into their daily lifestyle. This could mean that if the air group people like to do certain actions or behaviors in real life, the partner must be able to accept that as this is their lifestyle. You don't have to be the same but you must accept it. Another aspect is that sometimes when they expect their partner to be there at certain times or places, the partner should be there for them. Simple reason is that they just want to see their partner or want their presence at that particular time or place. In order to capture their hearts, their partner must be ready to meet their lifestyles. If someone else that they feel who can fit in the role at that time or place more often than their own partners, it rings an emergency bell.

WATER GROUP (Pisces, Cancerians and Scorpios)

They look for soul mates at all times. They are the weakest in terms of emotional needs of all the groups. Water group people usually do not have a good way of managing their emotions. That is why they get easily pessimistic and less secured. They also want to pour out their emotions to make themselves feel better. If one who doesn't let them pour out or trying to further worsen their emotions, he or she can never get into their good books. If you want to attract them, you have to be with them when they are down and give them a sense of security. And always be observant of their emotions. One more thing, don't anyhow give advices that will disrupt their emotions. If you know how to turn their emotions positively, you are the one for them.

Health is the Greatest Wealth

2008-12-02T23:35:00.003+08:00

How many of us truly understand this statement?

How many of us invest in health?

If you have not started investing, invest now.

Health is the greatest wealth.

Walking up the Path

2008-11-30T21:51:00.005+08:00

I am stepping into my 30s next year.

And before my 20s is ending, so many things happened on me and it really makes me grow up even faster than before.

And I realise, I have so much yet to achieve and I am not successful.

Not successful in so many things I had planned to achieve before my 30s.

Guess I have to learn it slowly to walk up the path I created for myself.

Now I understand that it is painful for people to grow up.

I am feeling the pain now.

I met my good old buddy

2008-11-29T22:44:00.005+08:00

Today I went out alone shopping for my xmas gifts for my friends.

And I am only halfway done according to my list.

But I am happy cos' I met one of my good army buddies at Sim Lim Square.

Yeah, seeing him brings back the old days when our friendship started during the training days as medics.

He always have the "boss" look since then till now. haha

Intelligent and resourceful. If not for his shy nature, I believe there will be gals lining up for him.

He was with his cousin and we also had dinner at a Japanese restaurant. Thank you guys.

Anyway now then I know he stayed in Punggol (i am always forgetful). Next time can jio him out liao.

Oh yah, now he is known as "MO Sir" to me hahahaha

Balancing Your Characters

2008-11-28T08:44:00.003+08:00

In life, we all know when there is a yin element, there is a yang element there to create the balance in life.

In this world, we have men and women. No one can tell that there is peace and harmony if this world consists of purely men or purely woman.

In health, we talk about balancing our eating habits and lifestyle.

In society, there are the richs and the poors to create economy.

But hey, have we ever talked about balancing our characters?

As most of my friends know, I like to study human behaviors and characters for many years.

In fact, long ago I did mention in my old blogs that I am working on the project to understand about our characters in terms of horoscopic views.

Cos' I am never perfect and no one can claim to be the perfect man in this world.

And I can tell you that to manage people other than yourself, it is the most difficult tasks and hard-to-attain mission. Look at Husband-Wife, Friend-to-Friend and Boss-Employee relationships, we have differences and it is how one show the differences decides the level of relationships.

To balance, we all got to learn to accept our weaknesses and other people's weaknesses. It is rather ironic that we can accept our own weaknesses and not able to accept others'. The underlying reason is still we are too self-centered.

Now, I have completed almost half of the project. And my area of coverage is focusing on our characters in terms of "The Healthier Sides" and "The Unhealthy Sides".

Almost there, I have done up "The Unhealthy Sides of Our Horoscopic Characters".

But I am not sharing it here at all. Why? Obviously I do not want to make some of my readers to misread my analogy and misinterpret it.

If you are interested to know, just let me know and I will definitely share with you.

Or if you are patient enough, I hope to publish my first book "Balancing Your Characters - My Horoscopic Views" one day and please show me your support to it.

Balance your life and it will make your life better.

Last note. Please donate some to those needy especially when the times are bad if you can. I believe that they need it more than we do sometimes. They also need it to balance their life. Be kinder to others is kinder to yourself.

Annoucement

2008-11-24T22:45:00.001+08:00

I hereby annouce,

I do not have any fetish.

Damn, I am so damn serious person. haha

Fetish

2008-11-20T23:09:00.002+08:00

My sis asked me this: "What is your fetish?"

I guess this question really strike me of all times.

I have never think of it before in my entire 29 years.

Fetish? Some guys are fetish over gals wearing miniskirts, hot shorts, OL wear. Some guys are fetish over female's toes, hair or even perfume etc.

So what about me?

Damn, this is really a tough question.

Do I have a fetish? or I don't have one.

Haha let me think it over hard.

Be Careful, Know Your Body

2008-11-18T16:54:00.003+08:00

These few days I am physically down.

I was accidentally hit at my left eye during a game.

I was back sprained yesterday. Hope it's not my slip disc injury impact.

Think my body is not working well lately. It needs a holiday.

Luckily my strong mind helps me to stay positive for the whole day.

Anyway I rested the whole day. I slept.

It had been a long time I had such a long sleep. But when I woke up, I really feel good.

I can even feel that I had met my mother in my dream and we had a good time.

Really, I feel better after this rest although my back and eye still giving me the feeling of pain.

I hope to recover fast and start my engine soon.

回顾经典 (3)：赵咏华

2008-11-16T09:51:00.003+08:00

她，是个非常利害的唱将。

她，是九十年代非常受欢迎的歌手。

她，就是赵咏华。

她的美声，打动了许多男女，牵动了无数老少的心。每首歌都有一个属于大家的故事，大家的心情。

她的成名代表作品：<求婚>，<最浪漫的事>，<嘿！聽我唱這首歌>，<相见太晚>，<只要你对我好一点>，<早餐>，<散心>，以及其他好听的歌曲。

她虽已经隐退歌坛，还是宝刀未老，偶尔还是会上一些歌曲节目，温故知新。

有情感的世界，就有赵咏华。

幸福的爱

2008-11-16T09:20:00.000+08:00

有人这么问着我，到底我追求爱的定义是什么?

我毫不犹豫地回答：“我要的是幸福的爱。”

只是，幸福好难寻。

只是，幸福不易找。

My New Baby!

2008-11-09T22:38:00.006+08:00

Introducing My New Baby!!!!

No lah, not the real baby!!! I dun even have a gf and not even married.

It's this Baby!!!!

My Samsung Omnia i900 Black!!!!

Yeah I am going to play around with it!!!! I'm loving it!!!!

好人好事

2008-11-07T23:22:00.006+08:00

我，一直都是喜欢帮助别人。

尤其对于自己的好朋友与家人，我都是会尽力而为帮忙他们解决了问题。

我知道，有些人认为，帮助别人是要帮助需要帮助的人。

我也知道，我们截然没有错，如果我们没有帮助那些不需要帮助的人。

可是，我发现，有时候我们小小的心意动作，其实在我们认为不需要帮助的人眼里，可能是一份大大的帮助。

刚才，我到了我家楼下的咖啡店，烦闷之间打算买点儿宵夜回家。

在我排队的前头，有的是一对夫妇，以及一位老妇人。

那位老妇人，我并没有察觉有异，就像我们邻里区内的普普通通老人家。

那对夫妇，看似有四十来头，显得非常恩恩爱爱，幸福饱满。

他们与老妇人是完全不相识的。

就当那对夫妇付钱的当儿，他们看到了老妇人，也顺便帮她付了她那份夜宵。

当然，老妇人婉转拒绝，但是那对夫妇的好意游说，让老妇人顿时感到盛情难却，也同时非常感动万分。

这一幕虽然短暂，我被感动了，也给了我阔大的思想空间：

人间的一份好心，是给予他人一份关怀。

给他人小小的一份福，得到的是辽阔的心德。

好人好事，不在事故大小，是在于你我愿不愿意。

同花顺

2008-11-07T22:42:00.003+08:00

十二蓮花電影原聲帶 <同花顺>

要是你心里真没我
你不会剪去了长发
闪动如蝴蝶在双颊　那是眼泪吗？
要是你心里真有我
你不会嘴边无火花
静静观察人世浮华　心已麻

假如说钢铁磨成针　只要愿意等
只要肯爱得深
是不是就有这可能
有可能打动这铁石心肠的人
可惜就算梦能成真　有谁猜得准
能分到多少福份
生命的同花顺　底牌没有你我也认

假如说温柔是谎话
你不会颠覆这想法
你撑着眼儿都不眨　是眼泪吗？

假如你真的放得下
你怎会一言也不发
漂泊天涯苦苦挣扎　心已麻

A Path to Follow

2008-11-05T22:17:00.002+08:00

I have been walking on my own path, which I believe.

But sometimes along the way, I asked myself several times, Am I on the right track? Why am I not appreciated?

There are a lot more questions lying along my path which I have yet to find answers for them.

One thing to start with, I should learn to be more selfish on myself to love myself more.

Can I do it?

Why am I making other people happy instead of making myself happy?

Looking Now at the Financial Crisis (2)

2008-11-02T12:13:00.004+08:00

Sometimes we as humans are just a greedy bunch of people.

I went to the nearby wet-market and saw a mini-scene which involves mini-bonds.

Two ah peks and one auntie.

I believe they were friends, well, I hope they are still friends.

They are exchanging heated words among themselves which capture a lot of bypassers' attention.

This uncle is blaming the other uncle for introducing him the "investment" which failed miserably and now no value. And soon the auntie stepped into the war and also blame that uncle for the bad recommendation.

They are saying that their retirement funds are gone etc.

But during the commotion, there are several lines which is familiar and make sense to our humanity:

"That time you told us that you know so much about investments and that you said you can make so much money because you studied the market very well and u are very sure that this investment will make money. That's why we trust you so much for our 20 over years friendship. Now you denied and keep saying that you are uneducated and do not know anything at all."

"I am uneducated and did not know anything about market and investments. Last time I trust the bank relationship managers since they helped me make money in my earlier investments. I lied that I know everything"

"Since you trust me, why now push all the blame to me? I did not force you nor threaten you to park your monies into this investment. You also told me that time you consulted your children and they are supportive!"

That's about it that I managed to catch before I moved off to do my marketing. Come to think of it, this are the common weaknesses that lies deep in our human nature.

One, haolian. We tend to be haolian when we manage to achieve something while others did not. It is very common to all people that we magnify our achievements and gives the most credit to our own self.

Two, blame others and not yourself. Whether or not, trust is placed. When market is good, you did not blame and you did not find fault with the other person who persuaded you to consider buying the investments. When things turn sour, you start to point your finger elsewhere and not your own self. It is as good as when a pupil failed his maths, he blame the teacher for not helpful and not teach him well.

Third, greed and lies. We tend to use pack of lies to defend ourselves when we make the mistakes. The courage to own up one's mistakes is low. We tend to be greedy and want to get easy money in the easy way. The greed can creep up to make one person foolish and unlogical at times.

Even nowadays a lot of old people keep saying they are uneducated and they trust 100% in the professional managers to grow their money. No doubt, to some people, the trust could be really 100% that is placed but in the end being misplaced. But to some others, they themselves can even invest in shares and many other risky investments although they are old and not educated, is the trust still 100% that is put on others or it is part of their own misjudgement ?

To me, it really depends on their conscience mind. I always emphasize the important of being responsible and know the consequences before a decision is made. If the people are genuinely fooled into making such risky investment, final justice will prevail. If some others who tried to take advantage of the situation, they have to live in such guilt and be ready to face the karma if they ever believe in it.

Many feel that I think a lot. Yes I agree, I think a lot to convince myself. My path of way is simply:

Decision = Understand the Facts Well + Know the Consequences +Take Responsibility

Even when things turn out the wrong side, at least I can take my own responsibility and I have the courage to face the consequences.

And I don't lie on my moral principles. During my younger days I also fall into this haolian zone. I am still learning to minimise that. Now my take is "Know is know, don't know is don't know". Most of the times I tell my friends are things that I was told by others. I tell out is just for them to know the information and facts.

Really tough to be humans but we should all learn to manage it well since we are humans.

Don't be cocky and too sure at times. You never know when the rainy day will come when the sun is bright.

This song tells it

2008-11-01T10:10:00.001+08:00

范逸臣 - 除此之外
词：阿怪曲：陈达伟

Say goodnight晚安谢谢你陪我一整个夜晚Close your eyes,be quiet我明白你有自己的不安很多来不及我不曾看见我只遇见你的现在不管你接受或离开I hope to stay for a while除此之外要你明白你的笑我真是喜欢看于是我一次又一次等待其实都还算愉快除此之外非常遗憾你的心我还是打不开And if you need somebody我确定我会在不会走开So Goodbye晚安舍不得看你觉得不自在It’s alright,I’m fine看起来这故事会写不完很多差一点你没有发现你只认识我的现在不管你留下或走开I’m gonna stay for a while除此之外我要你明白你的笑我真是喜欢看于是我一次又一次等待其实都还算愉快除此之外非常遗憾你的心我还是打不开And if you need somebody我确定我会在除此之外我还在等待你的心将为我敞开But if you need somebody你知道我会不会走开

Yes, it's alright. I am fine.

Weekends

2008-11-01T00:17:00.003+08:00

Weekends for me is usually nothing much.

Normally I hope to make my friday night eventful.

Normally I wish to make my saturday happening.

Normally I want to be healthy on sunday.

It did not turn out well for me.

Maybe I need to plan.

Sing your blues

2008-10-30T21:55:00.003+08:00

I believe many of us have our own problems.

The more you think of it, the more emotions you let out, the more you find it hard to resolve it.

For me, I find that singing and listening to music can help me to keep clear and resolve my personal issues well.

Music can help you to move away from the problems for time being and adjust your emotions right before you come back to face them again.

Maybe you can try.

Looking Now at the Financial Crisis

2008-10-30T20:50:00.005+08:00

Yes, the bubble in US has burst and you can see the dreadful impact it has caused to the whole world financial system.

When your economy is big, it is harder for the authority to get a good watchdog to monitor all the financial houses. Never would one expect one of the biggest players went down in the shortest time.

In reality, this is true. We always feel that Singapore has a well-structured and controlled system as compared to many other countries. Yes, we manage it well and partly I believe is that we are small and many things are within our control. For other countries who is many times larger than us, it could be a different story.

Back to the financial crisis, it has deeply impacted a lot of countries, ie US itself, Europe, Asia and Australia and New Zealand.

Blame who? Blame Lehman? Blame the genius who started the concept of Collateral Debt Obligations (CDO)? Or blame the investors who blindly believe that CDO is as safe as government bonds?

This is really hard to answer. It is not simply pinpointing fingers and blame the person easily. Everyone from top to bottom, no matter whether you are old or young, no matter you are educated or uneducated, no matter you are a professional or non-professional, no one can anticipate this would happen.

No one in this world like this to happen. The bank professionals are shaking their heads, the government bodies in the world are shaking their heads and the commoners like us are also shaking our heads.

Investments are risky. There is never an investment that has no risk. The bottomline of the risk is still losing your full capital, no matter the risk is high or low.

Oh yah, the sales people always tell us that your capital is protected. But protected by who?

I am only in the financial industry for 5 years. Yes, there are so many people in the industry that has so many years of experiences and claimed to be better. But so what?

I remembered that I went once to a bank. This salesperson can even tell me that the returns are guaranteed. So when I asked him to put it in writing that the returns are guaranteed, he was shocked and refused to commit his statement given to me earlier. What a joke.

Another one tells me that my capital is protected, but when I asked him protect by who, she said that she was not sure and started rattling away telling me how attractive the returns can give me. Trying to distract me?

TRUST is the word that you must examine carefully. How much do you trust the person? And more importantly is how much do you trust yourself to trust that person?

To be frank, when I talk about investment, I talk about shares. Many would slap me to the face telling me that shares are so risky that I am putting my life into them.

Yes I agree that shares is the most risky as you may never recover any of your capital if the worse comes. But at least my mindset is fixed and know that the risk of losing my capital and when I can convince myself to go for it, I am ready to face the dark music when it comes.

Now it is more painful for one to take it when the perceptions of low risk investments can turn out to be zero as well. The extent of disappointment is greater than me for holding the risky shares.

At one point, I really pity the people who invested in them especially it is likely that they are not well-informed of the risks they are undertaking and lured by the high returns. But looking at another angle, I also pity the banks, the relationship managers or sales team, there are indeed good people around in proper selling and now they seems to be carrying the bad names around.

Humans are just like that. When there are good times, everyone is happy, every customer would come and shake hand with the relationship managers, telling them that they are damn good in recommending good products to them and make good profits. When the corner is turned against, they scolded you like mad dogs and resorts to blaming you for not telling them or warn them about the risks involved.

Is it really the relationship managers did not tell out the risks involved? Or some of the customers trying to chicken out by cooking up a cock and bull story to blame the relationship managers? Who is the actual party who misrepresented? Who is really at fault? Who is to be blamed? I can tell you that no one can really tell out, perhaps one's conscience can tell.

At least, on the brighter note I feel safer to be in Singapore. We have a good system, frankly speaking and thankfully. We can minimise the impact from the turmoil as compared to many other financial bodies in the world.

But we are dependable on other countries too. When they are going down, we are down too. This means that we are facing a greater storm ahead. I shall not comment much on this yet but I can share if any one wish to hear my opinions.

So let's fasten our seat belts and work hard together. It is time for us to work hand-in-hand to face the storm together.

Wait till the storm is over then we celebrate ok. Be cautious.

Penny for Thought (1)

2008-10-30T20:47:00.002+08:00

Someone quotes:

Don't love someone when the person is not ready to accept your love or love you. Love the person only when you get the right signals; And you won't suffer from deep hurt when you realise you are not being loved.

Agree?

I know my own problems!!!

2008-10-26T12:24:00.002+08:00

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I KNOW MY OWN PROBLEM ABOUT MYSELF!!!!!!

I AM A TOO SERIOUS PERSON!!!!!!!

Damn, I must try to change.

Why I love music

2008-10-25T22:14:00.011+08:00

I love music.

Even when I first started out my hotmail account when I was only 17 years old back then, I already had this funky idea of "愛音乐" to be my hotmail name and converted to be "i_music". (And I did not realise that years later people start to use "i" in many marketing slogans!!!)

So you can imagine that I really love anything that do with music.

I always believe, music is all about connecting hearts. Music helps me to balance my emotions whenever I am happy, sad, angry or worried etc. Music is definitely my best pal.

To support music, I started to go into composing my own songs during the poly days.

But now, music composing is already out of my reach. One reason is that I am very restricted with using chinese softwares for my PC and mobile phone. Another thing is I am losing touch with playing the keyboard and guitar.

Mind you, I am not into it now does not mean I am giving 'em up ok.

Currently I decided to put myself into another area of music, which is singing.

Yes I was a choir member, one of the leads singing in front of big crowd of audience when I was very young. As years gone by, and many thanks to my army training, I had distorted my good voice!!!! Now I have to practise and practise it harder to meet my minimum standard.

When comes to singing, I do have knowledge of singing as I did try study a little on that. Lucky for me, I managed to know a few people who are good at singing and a couple of them are actually singing teachers. They taught me a lot which I like to share with my friends. However, I still cannot get some of the techniques right.

Oh yes. I definitely know my weaknesses in singing. I am not shy to share. But I have been working hard to change them. My bad singing habits make it harder for me to master the right techniques.

I always sing with my great emotions. I like to put myself into the story of every song, then I used my emotions to bring out my singing and hopefully tell out the story of the song. But there are still comments that I do not sing the right way and thus not able to touch their hearts. Haha I failed terribly.

My greatest bad point is that I do not have control in my singing. That means that I did not handle the song well. It is not so much of the "walk-voice" that I am mentioning. But rather, it is that I am using too much power in the earlier part of the song and easily lose the steam for the later part of the song. Lack of proper planning bah.

Another highlight is lyrics. Oh ya I love to scan through very fast the lyrics while singing and then close my eyes to sing it out with my emotions. I know, there are comments such as that I sing the wrong words in lyrics. This I admit but trust me that it is not the words I do not know how to pronouce but rather my singing habit to scan it through fast and close my eyes while singing it. So pardon me if that irritates you.

Last time during the younger days, I do not like going into ktv singing as I thought it is quite waste of money. Most of the times I tend to sing songs in an unplugged version with my friends. But slowly I realised that my voice sound quite different when singing with a microphone, and that explains why I am now more involved into ktv singing nowadays.

Yes I hope to improve my singing.

So now you know, I love music, I love composing and I love singing.

Cos' I have a dream, which is to write a love song for my wife and last forever to generations. If possible, I wish to sing songs during my wedding night too.

Hey, it's not geitai I am talking about ok. haha

I will never change

2008-10-25T19:40:00.003+08:00

Even I know the situation will not change, I wun not change too for myself.

I am like this.

As real as possible until it is not possible.

I rule myself.

Turning Back the Clock (Part One)

2008-10-16T23:03:00.005+08:00

Yes, it's me alright. Nah I did not disappear, just that I am too busy with my work and personal life.

Looking back in time, honestly I have stored quite a number of good memories in my head. Let me one by one narrate to you. Please be patient.

I started off working in the POSB bank branch after stepping out from the miserable army life. And I remembered clearly that I was having a really tough time looking for a job during that time. It was quite bad all thanks to the currency crisis and the unemployment rate was quite high. Soon, I managed to get an interview call from DBS and it really took me an hour for me to present myself in the interview with a Vice President. Yes, I am serious. I don't think any one in the right mind can talk so much during the interview. And I even managed to find out that the VP is a half-Chinese-Malay and she is happily married with three kids. haha incredible huh?

I am lucky to secure a relationship officer job as I was told that that position in fact requires one with a few years of experiences. I was told that the VP was impressed by my interview and decided to hand me a chance to try this position. I am also thankful that my Branch Manager put me to start off with the teller positon, wanting me to learn everything from scratch. And very soon I have proven my abilities and become the official relationship officer in the branch.

Branch life is never easy. It is always filled with customers and long working hours. You got to be non-stop working and be alert when you are handling cash transactions. I vividly remembered that once our branch was closed, we had to stay behind to complete the high volume of backend work. By the time we stepped out the branch door, we can only see the moon and waved hi to it.

Really appreciate the goodness and the help given by my good colleagues David, Alice, Poh Choo, Florence and Karen. I missed the good old days where we fight hard to beat the queue time, push up the sales and won several top awards for our branch. Great work guys!

Soon, I went into sales and I even obtained great height in my sales ranking. This I have to really thank our teller colleagues to help bring in sales to me. But soon I just cannot stand some of my sales colleagues who were becoming so agressive and greedy that they could do so much unrighful stuffs just to win the sales. They followed one of the hard rule in selling: Win at all costs.

Really disliked these people and what I can do is to pity the hurting parties. I mean, when you are selling, my own belief tells me that you got to sell it with integrity and honesty. So far, I never betrayed my conscience and I made friends with some of my clients. My sales job did not last long, due to my personal reasons to help out my brother, I eventually left the job at the peak of my career in the bank. Though it was quite a painful decision, I never regretted it. After all, my family is most important.

Once my brother's business starting pace was settled in steadily, I made my plans to further my own studies. Honestly I am never one good study material but during that time, the degree holders were selling like hotcakes in the job market. I am glad to be qualified to go to our third local uni SMU, after being rejected by NTU twice, but I hesitated. There was no exemption for one year as I was required to take the full 3 year course. Wa lau! How can that be? Diploma graduates who qualify for it how can dun have exemption?

So I opted out in the end. I prefer to shorten my study life span and hopefully can earn more money for the school fees. That was why I chose SIM part time RMIT degree course.

I got lucky again as I took up a tax officer position at IRAS. However, as market was not recovering well, IRAS only offered contract positions. But in order to do my part-time studies with fixed working hours, this was the most attractive job at that time.

First time for me doing taxation was not an easy one. There was some accounting and tax terms needed to be fully understood. As usual, I have the never-say-die attitude and quickly learnt the ropes from the senior perm staff there. In less than 3 mths, I am hand-in-hand to fight hard with them to clear the super high volume of tax forms. Frankly speaking, IRAS is quite a pleasant working place but it is different from the private sector. I managed to know a few good buddies there. Mansur, Long-ge, Jinyao, Eunice, QQ and Yilin, you guys made the place a memorable one.

As my one-year contract with IRAS ended, they extended another 6 months and so I stayed on to make it a total of 1.5 years. After that, they were still not opening up for perm position which I wanted, I decided to make a move even without a job. Many people were commenting that I should not leave without a job at that time. No doubt, their words are not wrong but I knew clearly that I am making the right decision.

I went into another DBS job but this time was in corporate banking. It was really an eye opener for me that time as the volume of work was high and complex than I expect it to be. You got to learn it yourself and picked up the skills in the shortest time I can. This was one job I really tested out my rapid learning skills. Within 2 months, I was already quite fully equipped to handle amazingly high volume of porfolios that I could imagine to do all by myself. Valerie, Xiaomei and Pris experienced it the same. Thats why I really pei-fu ourselves. Due to my last and final exam was closer, I decided to make the decision to quit and concentrated on my final battle. No choice, my exam was more important.

Part-time studies was very tough. Considering I had to work full-time and immediately after work, I got to leave and changed buses to reach the school in time. Full discipline and endurance is always required. My 2 years of hard work and efforts paid off, with the help of my great uni mates like Ah Wee, Ah Neo, Brandon, Azhar, Pris and Claudia, I finally succeeded and obtained the degree with distinctions, not just a normal degree.

Finally, after my graduation, things did get better as I managed to secure quite a few job interviews. For once I was taken aback when I went to a job interview in one bank. I was insulted with unfriendly words for the fact taht I did not have any insurance qualifications to handle that particular job. To me, I always did some hardwork to know the job before I went to the interview. So I don't believe that job requires full insurance knowledge and I strongly believe in myself to be able to pick up the relevant knowledge in the shortest time. I was so stunned and angry by the interviewer's words and straight I told that manager off and soon decided on my big career with AIA.

AIA, a place I have a lot of great memories in most part of my early days there.

Stay tuned for Part Two............

1 Accomplished, More to Go....

2008-10-07T22:59:00.003+08:00

I'm relieved. Yes, in some way I am.

I have accomplished one of my important tasks and I am moving on to my other important tasks in life.

I am putting in efforts to make sure things work out the way I hoped to be.

Even though it may end up the other result, but at least I have tried and never let myself down.

One down, more to go.....

Yes, it does feel good when you achieve your objective though not the result sometimes.

We Are 100 Years Old!!!!!

2008-10-05T10:57:00.002+08:00

Wishing my company happy 100th birthday!!!

May all of us stay prosper and grow in great fortune!!!!

May all of us live in great harmony, love and passion!!!!

It's Time!!!!!!!!!!

2008-09-27T13:11:00.001+08:00

It's Time!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's Time I excecute some of my plans!!!!!!!!!!!!

October it shall be!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I will tell you soon!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wish me luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you for Fashion Lobang!!!!

2008-09-21T08:45:00.003+08:00

Some of you might know this, I am trying to change my image this year.

Honestly, I did a little change in myself.

And I always believe, if you want to wear in style, it is not possible not to relate it to branded stuffs. Logically speaking, if your shirt is a cheap brand, it is highly likely they will produce a big quantity and the design tend to be quite simple.

But many thanks to one of my sis (I shall leave her name as a mystery as I did not seek her permission), I manage to sweep some of the fashion goodies.

And it is also her who has helped me to hunt for these goodies and save me a lot of time and effort. Really thankful to her. Thank you again sis!!!!

And you all know me, the goodies must be definitely cheap!!!!! Yeah!!!

And it is branded and stylish!!!! Yeah!!!!

Time to put in more effort in my changing image!!!!

I will always remember her in all my life

2008-09-11T17:00:00.002+08:00

Yes. Today is another day of my saddest moment.

Everytime I think of her, everytime I feel the pain of losing her.

I will always remember her in all my life.

Please treasure your loved ones when you have the chance.

Somehow for the first time, I feel that life is really short.

Like a gal does not mean must have the gal

2008-09-10T23:05:00.002+08:00

Yes, that's the fact in love.

A lot of times we see a guy likes the gal so much but he may not end up with the gal he like.

Reason? Simple, the gal may not like him or just treat him like a friend.

My rule is very simple: If I like a gal, I just want the gal to be happy.

Unless one day she tell me she likes me, then I must have her of course.

If not, I would just treat her nice until one day I am not in position to treat her nice further.

I know, saying is easier than done.

But I know I can do it.

Don't pin too much hopes in it

2008-09-07T21:26:00.004+08:00

I always tell myself, sometimes when we do something, we must do it with confidence.

With confidence does not mean 100% success. It can only mean that you are able to do the things in the way you think that it will work out to a success.

When I was young, I always try to do things with the confidence I put in. But I did one thing wrong. I pinned a lot of hopes into it.

Simply to put it, I do things that I feel I can get it using my methods, putting the hopes that I will definitely get it without fail.

Well, it turns out that with the confidence, I failed in the end and due to the high hopes I put in, I felt more worse than ever.

Haha this happens to me when I was taking my O Levels. During that time, I was highly confident that I will score well in the exams and I felt so much hopes in getting them. In the end, the results turned to the other direction and my high hopes were completely dashed.

I realised then, confidence is something that my brain working more than my heart. Hopes are something that my heart pushes more than my brain.

When you fail in something, if you use your brain more, your brain tend not to pour out too much emotions yet. But in the same situation, if you use your heart more, your heart pour out the most emotions when you did not get the result you wanted.

So now, whatever I do, I do it with confidence but I would not pin so much hopes in it. Of course, there must be still hope to put in order to motivates yourself.

Confidence vs Hopes. Well, I would put it to 80/20.